ardhra asked: Did you have a complicated time figuring out that you're poly?
Actually, no. I first figured out what poly was when I was seventeen and got involved with a guy who was already in a poly relationship. In hindsight that relationship wasn’t the most functional, but I figured out enough to work out that this was for me. It’s not always been easy, but relationships generally aren’t without their challenges, poly or otherwise.
I actually have a huge amount of admiration for people who work this out whilst in an existing mono relationship. I know quite a few poly folks who have opened up mono relationships after much discussion and such, and obviously it’s worked differently for different folks, but the ways some of the people I know have successfully moved from mono to poly relationships are quite phenomenal, to me. I can hardly imagine how wrought that situation could get, and to an extent I’m super grateful that I had the introduction I did.